Nervous System

One of the most common things I hear from clients is: "I know I want something different... I'm just not ready." At first glance, that sounds perfectly reasonable. But after coaching dozens of people through career transitions, I've started to wonder if we're asking the wrong question. What if readiness isn't actually a feeling? What if it's a set of conditions we can build? The Myth of Feeling Ready Many people assume they'll eventually wake up one day and simply feel ready

Shame shows up at every stage of the career transition process. It can show up when you first begin admitting to yourself that you’re unhappy. When you realize the career path you worked so hard for no longer fits. When you compare yourself to peers who seem more successful, stable, or certain. When you think about leaving a role, industry, identity, or salary behind. When you update your resume and suddenly feel like none of your experience makes sense anymore. When you wond

Let's talk about capacity. When referring to a vessel like a cup or concert venue, the capacity is: the amount of something it can hold. But what does it really mean when we use it to refer to ourselves / other people? "I don't have the capacity for that conversation." "My capacity for new projects is limited right now." "I didn't know I had the capacity for that much joy/pain/grief." These common phrases speak to the variety of things we might be holding or unable to hold a

Today is my 41st birthday. As I think back to one year ago, I am amazed at how much I’ve changed and grown since turning 40. One year...

I’m a proud, self-proclaimed weirdo. An oddball. A rebel. An outlier. It’s been a 10-year journey of me claiming this and living into it more and more and more. In my younger years I would have cringed to be called a “weirdo” by myself or anyone else. Now, I would cringe to be called “normal”. Now, I believe that it is in our weirdness that our authenticity and our uniqueness lies. “In times such as these, with the world crumbling all around us, why the heck are you talking