top of page
Blog
Never miss a post
Get new reflections on self-connection, career change, burnout, and building a life that actually feels like yours delivered to your inbox.
Search
Nervous System


Why You Don't Feel Ready to Change Careers (And What "Ready" Is Actually Made Of)
Don’t feel ready to change careers? Learn the three ingredients of readiness—clarity, capacity, and courage—and how to build what you need to move forward.
jesspare84
Jul 93 min read


Shame Gremlins: Why Career Change Feels So Hard
Shame can show up at every stage of a career transition—telling you it’s too late, you should have figured it out by now, or everyone else has it together except you. And when shame activates your nervous system, it can keep you stuck in overthinking, perfectionism, avoidance, or paralysis. Here’s how to recognize the shame gremlin and start loosening its grip.
jesspare84
May 284 min read


How To Expand Your Capacity
Let's talk about capacity. When referring to a vessel like a cup or concert venue, the capacity is: the amount of something it can hold. But what does it really mean when we use it to refer to ourselves / other people? "I don't have the capacity for that conversation." "My capacity for new projects is limited right now." "I didn't know I had the capacity for that much joy/pain/grief." These common phrases speak to the variety of things we might be holding or unable to hold a
jesspare84
Sep 4, 20252 min read


A Year Of Radical Rest: My 41st Birthday Reflection
Today is my 41st birthday. As I think back to one year ago, I am amazed at how much I’ve changed and grown since turning 40. One year...
jesspare84
Aug 15, 20255 min read


Permission To Be Weird
I’m a proud, self-proclaimed weirdo. An oddball. A rebel. An outlier. It’s been a 10-year journey of me claiming this and living into it more and more and more. In my younger years I would have cringed to be called a “weirdo” by myself or anyone else. Now, I would cringe to be called “normal”. Now, I believe that it is in our weirdness that our authenticity and our uniqueness lies. “In times such as these, with the world crumbling all around us, why the heck are you talking
jesspare84
Feb 24, 20253 min read
bottom of page
