Making Decisions

Do you ever struggle with decision-making?

Big or small, decisions can leave you spinning—hours, days, sometimes even months.

Your mind loops in endless circles. You're exhausted. Paralyzed.

Friends say you overthink everything.

And even after you choose, you second-guess: Should I have gone with the other option? Did I get it wrong?

I worked with a client this week who was stuck in exactly this place. Together, we began to explore what was happening beneath the surface.

First, we noticed how indecision showed up in her body—like a buzzing swirl in her head. Then, we unpacked the emotions behind it: the sting of a friend's comment (“You always overthink things”), the self-judgment about being “too slow.”

That awareness opened the door to self-compassion. We talked about how different personality types approach decisions differently. Tools like DiSC and Human Design helped her reframe her thoughtful, deliberate style as a strength—not a flaw.

But what really tripped her up wasn’t the decision-making itself—it was the after.

The rehashing.

The regret.

The quiet shame.

When I tried to reassure her with, “We make the best decisions we can with the information we have,” she cringed.

She’s heard it before. It never landed.

So we went deeper.

We uncovered a root of old shame—about getting things wrong, about needing to be perfect, about believing her worth was tied to always making the “right” choice.

Can you relate?

If you struggle with decision-making, it might not be about the choice at all.

It might be about the story underneath—the one that says you have to be perfect to be safe, or lovable, or worthy.

So here’s a question to sit with:

What would it take to believe that you can be fully human—and still be okay, even when you get it wrong?