On Navigating The Dark Hallway

My relationship with coaching began seven years ago when I hired a life coach, the amazing Ellie Burke, to help me navigate an extremely painful and disorienting transition period in my life. 

Since that time, I’ve jumped headfirst into personal growth and healing: 

• I’ve opened and closed two businesses (and now opened a third)

• Gotten 6 certifications 

• Read hundreds of books on psychology, habits, trauma, manifestation, creativity, Buddhism, mindset, coaching, nature-based healing, vulnerability, communication, emotional intelligence, mindfulness, and more

• Done a shit ton of therapy and energy healing work

• Spent $10K+ on coaching (life coaching, career coaching, business coaching, somatic coaching, etc.) 

• Worked with 40+ high-level coaches and consultants to create courses, workshops, memberships, workbooks, etc. on personal growth topics and on topics related to entrepreneurship, business, human resources management, finance, and leadership

• Co-authored a best-selling book, Be The Beacon; and

• Spoken on stage in front of hundreds of leaders about how to uplevel their businesses by freeing their team members to be authentically themselves. 

Why do I tell you all this? Because I think it’s essential for women to stop shrinking themselves, making themselves more palatable, and minimizing their achievements. Or my personal favorite, waiting for some external entity to validate our worth. 

So instead, I’m laying out my expertise for you. I’m bragging (gasp!). And I’m doing it to inspire you to claim your power, too. 

My coach helped set me on this path all those years ago. Witnessing her working in her genius modeled for me that coaching was an actual career path and that it was something that felt super aligned to my natural strengths and ways of being. 

I’ve lived through many transition moments over the years and have collected strategies from all of my coaches, healers, and teachers about how to navigate the void that exists between one thing that is ending and the next thing that hasn’t yet begun. 

These transitions can be extremely destabilizing and we often find ourselves clinging to the past, trying to bargain with it to not be done, freezing in fear about the unknown, or rushing to try and force the next thing to arrive so that we can feel settled again. 

The thing is, when we walk out of one room in our lives and into the dark hallway, we don’t know how long the hallway is, what perils wait for us in the dark, or what lies on the other side. 

The process to navigate the hallway isn't complicated. It's actually quite simple. But it's not necessarily something we've been taught to do. 

This is where working with a coach comes in. A good coach doesn’t give you the roadmap or tell you what to do. A good coach helps you recognize that it’s possible to surrender to the in-between space. A good coach gives you tools to help you feel less afraid and disoriented, to help you trust yourself more to navigate the hallway, get to the other side, and to ultimately be ok. A good coach isn’t the one who has the answers, they’re the one who knows how to help you listen to your own answers. 

Maybe you’ve gotten to this transition moment because all of a sudden your life (career, relationships, wellbeing) felt so completely out of alignment that things had to change.

But more often than not, we don’t suddenly wake up out of alignment. This is a result of years of not listening to our own answers. Of not slowing down. Of not tuning in. Of not honoring our truth.

I’ve been there. And I’ve experienced first-hand the life changing power that honoring our truth has to transform our lives. 

That’s why I decided to focus my coaching business on these transitions and on helping women in midlife to create lives that feel sustainable, joyful, and aligned.

For the past few months, I’ve been leading a small cohort of women through my first group coaching program, The Dreamweaver’s Path. I’ve been delighted to witness their growth and I know that by supporting more women to reconnect to their power, I’m helping to create the world I want to see. 

Some results my clients are experiencing include:

• More comfort with expressing boundaries and saying no

• Paying attention to signals in their bodies about what they truly want and what doesn’t feel aligned

• Practicing using values to make decisions

• Becoming aware of habits that have been getting in the way (sometimes for years) and rewiring those pathways

• Stop numbing from the grief and pain of living out of alignment

• Building self trust and having difficult conversations to express their truth/needs

• Bringing a sense of lightness/play to the process

• Holding themselves accountable with compassion and without blame

• Feeling less alone in the process

There’s so much instability and change in the world right now. Identities and career paths are getting shaken up, and for a lot of people, change is being thrust upon them. My invitation to you is that if you or someone you know is going through a transition and could use a flashlight and friend to walk with you through the hallway, and equip you with the tools to navigate the liminal space, I’d love to have a conversation with you. I’d love to help you get clear about where you're at and what you truly want in this next chapter of your life. Please feel free use this link to schedule a no-obligation Clarity Call with me. 

You don't have to go it alone!